Table 21
Based on positive experiences Sweetie and I have had with assigned seating at weddings (meaning we got to meet really cool people we never would have met otherwise), Sweetie and I have decided to have assigned seating at our wedding.
A lot of the wedding books say you start this task when replies start coming back, but based on the advice of a friend who got married (and who did an AWESOME job of assigning seats), we've begun now that we have a complete guest list. If everyone were to attend the wedding not only would we go HORRIBLY over budget (there are enough people we are 99.9% certain won't show that we can comfortably budget for a smaller number), but they would all have an appropriate table to sit at. They would be with people that will hopefully share something in common with to have a nice conversation over dinner. There are certain people who MUST meet, and they are most definitely seated at the same table. And there are also friends of the parents we know little about, so get randomly assigned to a table because hey, who will that hurt.
The process was a lot less painful than expected, and we shouldn't have to remove the cutlery from any of the tables. The only pairing I feel even a tiny little bit bad about is that I put my brother at my best friend's table. The reasoning being is that best friend is the one person of a younger age that brother knows AT ALL, and given that he has difficulties with large groups of people sometimes, I put him at a table where he has a slight chance of feeling comfortable. And best friend is cool enough that she'll understand. Plus, there are some other really cool people that she's going to enjoy meeting at the table.
The plan is as guests decline, we will mush tables together into new iterations. That's the beauty of planning the seating now. If we had planned the seating once invitations coming in I would feel a LOT more pressure to get it right. As it stands now I recognize that there is no chance that the final seating arrangement will look this way. Therefore, it's a pretty low-risk proposition, knowing that everything will look completely different on the day of the event.
The table assignments are now hidden under lock and key and only available to top security clearance personnel. We don't want it to get out who got seated at the "dark" table. (I'd tell you some of the nicknames for the other tables, but it might give away secrets we don 't wish to divulge).
So start practicing those conversational skills, people. We'll reward you with cake at the end of it all.
A lot of the wedding books say you start this task when replies start coming back, but based on the advice of a friend who got married (and who did an AWESOME job of assigning seats), we've begun now that we have a complete guest list. If everyone were to attend the wedding not only would we go HORRIBLY over budget (there are enough people we are 99.9% certain won't show that we can comfortably budget for a smaller number), but they would all have an appropriate table to sit at. They would be with people that will hopefully share something in common with to have a nice conversation over dinner. There are certain people who MUST meet, and they are most definitely seated at the same table. And there are also friends of the parents we know little about, so get randomly assigned to a table because hey, who will that hurt.
The process was a lot less painful than expected, and we shouldn't have to remove the cutlery from any of the tables. The only pairing I feel even a tiny little bit bad about is that I put my brother at my best friend's table. The reasoning being is that best friend is the one person of a younger age that brother knows AT ALL, and given that he has difficulties with large groups of people sometimes, I put him at a table where he has a slight chance of feeling comfortable. And best friend is cool enough that she'll understand. Plus, there are some other really cool people that she's going to enjoy meeting at the table.
The plan is as guests decline, we will mush tables together into new iterations. That's the beauty of planning the seating now. If we had planned the seating once invitations coming in I would feel a LOT more pressure to get it right. As it stands now I recognize that there is no chance that the final seating arrangement will look this way. Therefore, it's a pretty low-risk proposition, knowing that everything will look completely different on the day of the event.
The table assignments are now hidden under lock and key and only available to top security clearance personnel. We don't want it to get out who got seated at the "dark" table. (I'd tell you some of the nicknames for the other tables, but it might give away secrets we don 't wish to divulge).
So start practicing those conversational skills, people. We'll reward you with cake at the end of it all.
posted by Swankette at 8:48 PM
4 Comments:
Hey, I like your brother! What's a little paranoid schitzophrenia among friends?
I know that. But I can also see you wanting to be involved in things other than the dance of the brooms at my wedding. But don't worry, it will kick butt.
Are you keeping partners together, at least?
Of course we're keeping partners together. Except the people we really don't like - want to show them their options. (Joking)
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